Couples Therapy · Tring, Hertfordshire
When love isn't
the problem.
Sometimes two people who love each other still can't find their way to each other. That's where therapy begins.
Begin the conversation
Couples Therapy · Tring, Hertfordshire
Sometimes two people who love each other still can't find their way to each other. That's where therapy begins.
Begin the conversationYou don't have to be in crisis to come to couples therapy. Many of the couples I work with love each other deeply — but somewhere along the way they've stopped reaching each other.
The arguments that go nowhere. The silences that stretch too long. The sense that you're living parallel lives rather than a shared one. These are not signs that your relationship is over. They are signs that it needs a different kind of attention.
I offer a space where both of you can be heard — not just the loudest voice, and not just the most distressed one.
Every conversation turns into a conflict, or nothing gets said at all. You've forgotten how to talk without it becoming a fight.
Physical or emotional closeness has quietly disappeared. You share a life but feel like strangers sharing a house.
Something happened — an affair, a lie, a breach — and you're trying to find out whether repair is possible.
A new baby, bereavement, illness, or a move that has shifted the ground between you in ways you didn't anticipate.
The same argument, over and over. Different trigger, same wound. You're caught in a cycle neither of you knows how to break.
Some couples come to decide. Therapy can help you do that with honesty and dignity — whether you stay or go.
Before we commit to ongoing work, we take time to assess carefully — for your benefit and mine. Every step below is part of that commitment to getting it right.
Phase One
Assessment
Reach out by email. I will respond personally within two working days to answer any initial questions and agree a time to begin.
We meet together — all three of us. I want to hear both of your stories: what has brought you here, what you are hoping for, and what feels most important right now.
I then meet with each of you separately. This gives each person private space to share what they may not feel able to say in the room together. These sessions are confidential within the agreed framework.
We come back together to reflect on the assessment. I share my observations, you share yours, and we explore whether ongoing couples therapy feels right — and what it might look like.
Phase Two
The Work
If we mutually agree to proceed, we book an initial block of up to six sessions. These are joint sessions, 60 minutes each, held weekly or fortnightly. The focus and pace are shaped by what you both need.
At the end of the six sessions we review together — honestly and without pressure. Some couples find they have what they need. Others continue for further sessions. We decide together what comes next.
This process is designed with care. The assessment phase is not a formality — it is where we establish trust, safety, and a shared understanding of what we are working with. No therapy begins until all three of us are ready.
I have been working with couples for over a decade. What I have learned is that the couples who come to therapy are not the ones who have given up — they are the ones who haven't.
My approach is integrative — drawing on attachment theory, psychodynamic thinking, and the practical tools of relational therapy. I don't take sides. I create the conditions for both of you to be seen.
Sessions are held at Circle Therapy, Silk Mill Business Park, Tring — a private, comfortable space away from the ordinary.
Does my partner have to want to come?
Both partners need to choose to attend — therapy only works when both people are willing to be there. If your partner is reluctant, we can sometimes start with a single session to see how it feels before committing to anything further.
What if one of us talks much more than the other?
That's my job to manage. Part of what I do is create space for the quieter voice — the one that has learned to go silent, or that hasn't felt safe to speak. Both of you will be heard.
Do you see each partner individually?
In couples therapy, I work with the relationship itself — not with each individual separately. I do not hold secrets or have private sessions with one partner. This keeps the work honest and safe for both of you.
How long does couples therapy take?
There is no fixed answer. Some couples find significant shifts in six to eight sessions. Others work with me for a year or more. We review together and you decide what feels right.
Can therapy help if we have already decided to separate?
Yes. Some of the most important work happens at the end of a relationship — how to part with dignity, how to co-parent well, how to grieve what was. Ending with care is its own kind of success.
The first step is simply reaching out.
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